Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Say No to Sex on Camera

Love making is one of the most intimate expressions of love. There is nothing shameful and bad about having sex but unlike in the rest of the animal kingdom sex is a very private affair in human world. When this very romantic ritual becomes public then it turns vulgar and therefore subjected to humiliation.
Bhutanese society is so small that just one leaked private video is enough to disturb half the population while the unaffected half share and gossip over it. Shocking number of homemade leaked videos have silently gone viral in our country and no one is giving a second thought before forwarding them to their friends. What more is a sadist?
Sadist is the man who made love on camera. Sadist is the man who leaked the private video. Sadist is the man who distributed the video. And sadist we all are in receiving those videos and watching them, trying to see if we could identify the people in the clips. How exciting it is when she is not our sister, how naughtily we talk about it when it's not our daughter, how casual we are because she is nothing to us. Will you do the same if she was a family? Can you imagine the humiliating pain she and her loved ones are going through?
Today the world is with you in having fun at their expense, tomorrow the same world will switch side and enjoy at your expense should you be the victim.
I see no difference between the women in videos and any other women when it comes to what they will do in bedroom, it's just the matter of having caught up with a wrong guy who took advantage of their trust. Whatever the intentions were, the act of recording the private business in itself was wrong. There can't be a justification, it was just ruthless abuse of blind trust. How could it leak out if it was never recorded?
I am a guilty sadist by circumstance; because I use a smart phone and I have huge contacts I have received every leaked videos in the town but on my part I have tried to stop right there by not forwarding them. I know I couldn't make any difference but as brother, as son and as father I have done my share of right so that I could face the women in my family without much guilt.

One woman I know has received all of the clips and surprisingly she has forwarded to all her women friends. Quite shocked, I asked why would she, as woman, do this instead of helping in containing it. She told me that her not-forwarding them can hardly make any difference, she rather chose to send them to her lady friends to warn them and to let them learn lesson. She is right, sometimes we can learn from mistaken we haven't done ourselves.

Remember:
  1. When you are sending your phone or computer for repair, make sure you don't have secrets saved in them. It's alleged that some videos were leaked that way.
  2. The files you have deleted from your memory devices can be retrieved using retrieval software, so don't think your secrets are gone when you have clicked on Delete button. 
  3. If you are staying in cheap local hotels make sure there aren't any peepholes as was in one case. 
  4. Last and the best, don't trust your partner if he takes out his camera in the bedroom. Say no to Sex on Camera and there is nothing to worry about. Sometimes it's not about trusting your partner but it's about how well we understand the technology. 
What keeps us going as Bhutanese is not our military might, it cannot be technology advancement and never was industrial estate, we are beautifully Bhutanese because of our social values that binds us as family but these videos we are sharing are degrading our Bhutaneseness...

18 comments:

  1. I applaud you Passu sir for this bold post which creates awareness amongst us. Its terribly sad to learn that techonologies have been misused. I hope everyone pays heed. When one can make a difference why not the other hundreds?

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  2. Passu Sir in deed a Wonderful message to society. Hope the readers convey message in this regard.

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  3. good initiative for the betterment of society....good job keep going passu...
    your message is very strong and im for u.....

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  4. Terrific..U gotta put up in newspaper column, for wider readership..it's column worthy and though provoking ...bravo

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  5. How exciting it is when she is not our sister, how naughtily we talk about it when it's not our daughter, how casual we are because she is nothing to us. Will you do the same if she was a family? Can you imagine the humiliating pain she and her loved ones are going through?
    Hats up to you Passu for wakeing us all up, esp. the questions we really need to ask ourself when we come across such incident henceforth...

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  6. Really thought provoking message to the society ....i salute you passu

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  7. "Last and the best, don't trust your partner if he takes out his camera in the bedroom. Say no to Sex on Camera and there is nothing to worry about. Sometimes it's not about trusting your partner but it's about how well we understand the technology." Thank you sir for writing about it.

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  8. It is so painful to hear and to see such videos leaked through various means...I salute to you Passu sir for boldly taking this issue as very important and educating our fellow friends, our women friends in particular. I would also like to join Passu sir in reminding our girl friends to be more vigilant and sensitive in whatsoever you do in this short life...

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  9. It is so painful to hear and to see such videos leaked through various means...I salute to you Passu sir for boldly taking this issue as very important and educating our fellow friends, our women friends in particular. I would also like to join Passu sir in reminding our girl friends to be more vigilant and sensitive in whatsoever you do in this short life...

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  10. Passu has done a great job by bringing this issue in the forefront and sensitizing the innocent or otherwise characters in the clips. i say innocent or otherwise because some of the female characters which in the clips are well aware of the recording which shows it was done with mutual consent. but still so, i believe that the innocent poor female must have been told that it was only for their internal use and she must have never thought that it would go beyond the two of them. anyway the message i have taken from Passus post is, obviously Passu did not do this post to get appreciations of be liked for his post. i believe he meant anyone and everyone who reads his post to do our little part by spreading his message to the innocent lot, by making innocent peoples aware that there are saddist who after enjoing then wanted to ruin the lives of those inncoent victims. so lets all join hands with Passu and sensitize the innocent victims. individual effort may mean little but together we can make a difference......

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  12. I just wish every one thinks the way you do . Very informative post .

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  13. hey teacher,

    rightly pointed out these on-going viral. kudos to you for using your power of social media to voice the concern as a responsible man.... your effort is already there in Kuensel issue of 11/6/2014. once more keep writing and blogging...

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  14. Great job Passu!! Keep writing !!

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  15. Hey pass
    Great job....really appreciate your work. ...

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  16. Hats off sir. I really appreciate u for such a concern shown

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